Saturday, September 3, 2016

Simple Homeschool: Don't Fix What Isn't Broken



Homeschooling is not always easy, especially when I start playing the comparison game. I'm sure you've played it a time or two yourself, and it's not a fun game to play because nobody wins.

"My 8th grader isn't doing as much grammar as so-and-so's 8th grader...maybe she's behind? Maybe she won't be able to go to college? I need to order a bigger, more expensive, better grammar curriculum!"

"My 6 year old isn't reading yet, and so-and-so's 6 year old is already reading books and writing sentences. Mine doesn't know what a sentence even is! Maybe we should buy what their child is using and do that."

"My 6th grader doesn't read as much history as so-and-so's 6th grader. He will never learn history! I need to change his curriculum to a literature based history curriculum and buy all the books I can and make him read them all."

"My 8 year old's math program isn't as rigorous as so-and-so's math program. My goodness, she is still reviewing tally marks and clocks! She's never going to know multiplication and division! Let's change her curriculum and make her do multiplication and division every day! Drill, drill, drill!"

Please tell me I'm not the only homeschooling mom who has had these {crazy and irrational} thoughts run through her mind...I hope I'm not alone here.

I am making an effort to simplify my homeschool for this very reason - to avoid the comparison trap. I'm tired of comparing my {wonderful, smart, creative, individual} children to everybody else's children. My children are different from every single child in the world - and that is a beautiful thing! That's one of the reasons I homeschool and something I try to teach my children, so why do I struggle with it?

I have been reflecting on all of the things that work in our homeschool, and funny enough, it's not the expensive, shiny, new curriculum - it's the simple things. This is a not a new revelation to me - I've realized this several times that I've been reflecting on our homeschool. It is something that I forget {for some reason} and have to remind myself of. I am so tired of worrying, so tired of fretting and comparing and changing things and trying to fix what isn't broken.

A simple homeschool is what I am going to work toward. No more buying new curriculum mid-year because I don't think my child is 'learning enough'. No more changing methods because I think that this way is better than that way. No more second-guessing myself or my children.

We are going to do things the simple way, the way that has worked for years and years.

*gasp* I'm going to keep using the curriculum we are using - for the whole year.

I am going to find ways to simplify our homeschool. I hope to make it a weekly or bi-weekly topic on the blog, full of ideas and ways to make things simple. I hope you will leave me comments with ideas and ways that your homeschool is simple.

My first tip is just this: Don't fix what isn't broken.



9 comments:

  1. I agree. I think that is why we are back to using Heart of Dakota this year, but still praying fervently about using 2 guides vs. a more family integrated approach.

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    1. Prayer is definitely something I don't do enough of when it comes to curriculum choices. I am sure that I would make much wiser decisions if I prayed about curriculum rather than just clicking order. The family integrated approach is so appealing to me, and it really makes things easier.

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  2. That's a great tip Megan, and one too easily forgotten.

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    1. Thank you! I need to remind myself if it frequently!

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  3. I have the same problem... ALL the time! But I find that even when we switch... we don't stick with it for very long.

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    1. We don't, either! We always wind up using what we started with from the beginning.

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  4. I think it's a common temptation for homeschoolers to compare themselves to others. Much better to make our decisions and any changes based on what is best for our children than on what somebody else is doing.

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    1. Oh for sure! I have much more peace when I don't care or compare with what others are doing. I know that we are doing exactly what we need to be doing.

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  5. I couldn't agree more! It is all to easy to fall in to that trap!!

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